SO CALLED "LOVE"

Understanding the concept of love 

In the Greek language there are four words for love; 

1. Agape:  ἀγάπη it refers to divine love, unconditional love with stick-ability; Agape is the highest of the four types of love in the Bible. Jesus Christ showed this kind of divine love to his Father and to all humanity. 
2. Storge:  στοργή it refers to parental love; Even though this Greek word for family love is not specifically found in Scripture, examples of it are seen throughout the Bible. 
3. Philia: φιλία it refers to brotherly love, enjoyment, fondness, friendship; Philia is the type of love in the Bible that most Christians practice toward each other.  
4. Eros: ἔρως it refers to romantic love, marital/sexual love

There is no fifth kind to this category that today many lovers would die to talk/argue about: the love between a girl and a boy, in some instance, b & b or g & g. 

Such love is actually an emotional state of an individual who is deeply infatuated to other human being (male to male, male to female, female to female). 

Today it's unanimously called love because it is mistakenly named love by our predecessors without any thought. 

Such so called love is of three kinds: 

The first one is an immature infatuation towards an individual that one finds to be more attractive or beautiful; the drive, here, is immaturity. This kind of love is usually experienced during adolescent years. Many call this as first love or first crush and recall it as foolish and funny tender days of their lives. Such infatuation can also happen in later years of an individual's life but will still remain immature because it involves the lust of our eye. 

The second kind is the attraction towards other's body. The drive here is the lust of flesh that seeks to find its fulfillment in partner's body by involving in a physical relationship. 

As once someone said, "The best buy of lust can be through love". And this is seen quite often than the usual these days.

The third kind, which is the good one, is an individual's attraction towards one's persona. This kind requires a management skill to perceive such characteristics in an individual that sees partner as an apt candidate to meet all his/her subjective marital/social/fiscal standards and finally seeks to marry with proper approach. 

And many such so called love-relations we see every then and now emerges out of second kind which is lust. That's why we see among youngsters a trend of hopping in relationships or frequently changing their partners in a disguising vague name of love. And such love is so frequent that it happens to them every second morning to every second face they see. This is insatiable, therefore, leads to simultaneous multiple relationships. Finally leads to post break up trauma and depression. And it's not hard to witness this in our sex-driven postmodern society. 

A Jewish research shows that after having spent a period of time in a relationship (pre-marital) or multiple relationships it's hard for an individual to be committed in a single (post-marital) relationship because the gum of binding is lost. This, eventually, leads to infidelity in marital life. Therefore, things like live in relationships are very trendy in our times because no one wants to be answerable/accountable about their relationship's limits to anyone anymore. 

Out of these three disguises of love, it should not be called love any longer but infatuation, lust and management. The third one which is management is most acceptable among the three and to an extent is Biblical. Because it doesn't lead one towards the sin of lust neither leads towards an immature relationship through infatuation, which, eventually is a dramatic waste of energy, time and money.

Another reason it should be named management because it requires careful philosophizing of one's purpose of life, therefore, right selection of life partner who meets all the demands and then gradually develops caring attitude towards the partner which is the golden key for any relationship to last (seen mostly in traditional arrange marriages). 

So let's stop using the word love by seeing such so called affairs around us, instead, use the more clearly defining words like; infatuation, attraction (lust) or management.

Bible says LOVE never fails/fads; so if it fails/fads its not LOVE then but something else purposefully disguised in the apparel of LOVE. 

To Be Continued...!!!! 

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The Four Loves is a book by C. S. Lewis which explores the nature of love from a Christian and philosophical perspective through thought experiments

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